Sarah Huckabee Sanders Won’t Be Missed

On Thursday, Donald Trump announced on Twitter that “After 3 1/2 years, our wonderful Sarah Huckabee Sanders will be leaving the White House at the end of the month and going home to the Great State of Arkansas.” Unlike some of Trump’s statements, this one at least has a kernel of truth to it. Indeed, soon-to-be former White House Press Secretary Sanders has lasted multiples of Scaramucci. She survived Stormy Daniels and Michael Cohen and General John F. Kelly as well as fellow prominent ladies of the administration, such as former Secretary of Homeland Security Kirstjen Nielsen and Nikki Haley, who served as ambassador to the United Nations.

But like all denizens of Trumpworld (except those who share the president’s last name), she has run her course.

For months, there had been speculation that Sanders would step down. It’s less clear from what, given that she hasn’t stood behind the podium to take questions from the press in over 95 days. The New York Times summed up the job she is set to depart like this: “In Tokyo, she took a sushi-making class. In London, she posted a Buckingham Palace selfie with Louise Linton, the actress who is married to the Treasury secretary, Steven Mnuchin. (In an undocumented interaction, she asked the Prince of Wales to sign her dinner menu. He did.) In Ireland, Ms. Sanders and her husband, Bryan, took a photo with a group of Trump loyalists at the president’s private golf club and visited a local pub.” In other words, she’s spent the past few months like most Trumpian kleptocrats: enjoying the perks of government “work.”

With no actual accomplishments to memorialize in the traditional White House departure post-mortem, Sanders will be remembered first and foremost not for what she did, but for how she did it: With frequent sneers and ceaseless scorn, she was one more woman who helped Trump launder his sexism and racism. Like Ivanka Trump, with her nebulous “women’s empowerment initiative,” or Kellyanne Conway, who claimed that women who oppose Trump “just have a problem with women in power,” Sanders has obfuscated and stalled and deflected, providing effective cover for some of the president’s most misogynistic behavior.

Sanders lied about the president’s hush money payments to adult film actor Stormy Daniels, telling the press that “the president has addressed these directly and made very well clear that none of these allegations are true.” (Reader, it turned out what she meant was all of those allegations were in fact true.)

Taylor Swift Just Revealed What Ended Her and Katy Perry’s Feud

Taylor Swift and Katy Perry confirmed to the world yesterday that all is good between them after Perry made a cameo in the video for Swift’s new single, “You Need to Calm Down.”

Of course, most fans were already aware of the reconciliation. Perry sent Swift a literal olive branch last year ahead of her Reputation tour, and Swift reciprocated by sending Perry some “peace at last” cookies a few days ago.

Now in new interviews, Swift is revealing how it all went down behind-the-scenes. “She and I have really been on good terms for a while. She sent me a really nice note and an olive branch to the—like an actual olive branch—to my tour when it started, the Reputation Stadium Tour, a while ago,” Swift said on the UK’s Capital Breakfast radio show, according to E!. “From that point on we’ve been on good terms.”

“Then we saw each other at a party and walked up to each other and hugged it out and talked about things, and then we saw each other again and hung out at another party, and it was just like something felt so much lighter about my life when things became really good between us,” she continued. “And, you know, she and I have been fine for a while and really on good terms but we didn’t know if we were ever gonna really tell people about it. We wanted to make sure that was solid between us before we ever made the public aware.”

In a separate interview with BBC Radio 1 Swift said, “When we saw each other, it was just very clear to both of us that everything was different, that we had grown up, that we had grown past allowing ourselves to be played against each other. It was just really clear that we remembered how much we had in common, and so both of us have been in a really good place for a while, but I don’t think either of us knew if we were going to talk about it publicly…”

When Taylor Swift got the idea for her “You Need to Calm Down” video, she told Perry but wasn’t sure if she’d want to keep things more private. She says Perry’s response was simple: “I would love for us to be a symbol of redemption and forgiveness.” The burger and fries of it all didn’t come into play until Swift saw Perry’s Met Gala look.

“I was like, that is amazing, because it felt very punk rock to me, her wearing that,” Swift said. “I was like, that’s really cool and funny. And I was thinking, we’re going to have this moment in the video and it’s a bit too on the nose if it’s us wearing normal clothes and hugging—it won’t really fit…because this video is very wacky and very surreal and fun and playful. So I was like, ‘Can we do a burger and fries as a metaphor for two people who belong together, people who are a perfect pair’? And she thought it was really funny and so we did it. And I think that the metaphor of us searching for someone who you have something in common with, and then seeing them and having it originally represented is funny.”

This Model Campaigned to Be the First Trans Angel. Now, She’s Starring in a Lingerie Campaign.

The just-released images place Bloom center stage in sheer bodysuits and floral-embroidered bra-and-panty sets, sometimes surrounded by a cast of models and professional burlesque dancers. (The shoot was inspired by ballroom culture.) The campaign is inclusive not just in its casting, but also in its product: The sizing ranges from 4 to 22, with bras in 30-34 A-K and 36-44 B-K. Prices will be accessible, too, with everything under $70.

The photos are just as stunning as one might expect from the Chicago native, who’s no stranger to the red carpet nor the runway. Yet the significance of this moment carries an intimate meaning for her.

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“As a young black trans woman, the first money I got to invest in my transition was in lingerie. It means a lot to me. It’s like putting foundation on or buying mascara from the local pharmacy. It’s an experience that we cherish,” she says. “The thing about Playful Promises is that it represents everyone that feels that lingerie brings their femininity to the next level… That’s what fashion and being part of a fantasy is about.”

In more ways than one, this campaign comes full circle for Bloom. It honors to her path to defining her own femininity, it celebrates her identity in a way other lingerie brands have chosen not to, and it even confirms advice the multi-hyphenate artist lives by. “My dad always told me that if you want something, just speak up. And that’s exactly what I did.”

While this specific path to success was hardly based on one goal-oriented tweet, Bloom continues to be very clear in her intentions in her work going forward. “I just want to continue doing projects that represent me. I think that the impact that it will have on people is, hopefully, that they can see sensuality, sexuality, transsexuality, and femininity in a different light and people can be inspired to love themselves more,” she says. “That’s what I do in everything I do—whether it’s movies, walking runways, doing editorials, or walking into a room at an event and shaking hands. I want to be able to be a presence and I want to be able to inspire. And if I can do that while wearing a two piece lingerie, why not?”

The Bachelorette Season 15, Episode 6 Recap:

Hannah complains to Chris that the Luke drama is taking up her time, and it’s hurting every relationship. Chris’ take: The guys are crazy about her, and they’re jealous of the attention she gives Luke. Wow, that’s…missing the point. My take: If you dump Luke, we wouldn’t have to talk so much about Luke.

Anyway, Hannah decides to just get the rose ceremony over with. Mike and Jed already had roses, and the rest go to Connor, Tyler, Dustin, Peter, Dylan, Garrett, and Luke. That means goodbye to Devin, Kevin, and Grant. Once they leave, Hannah sets the remaining dudes straight: She’s not sure she sees a future with anybody at this point, so they’ve got to figure it out.

And with that, it’s time for the next destination: Latvia. But before Hannah takes the guys out for dates, she sits down with Chris for a heart-to-heart. “I’m not trusting these relationships as much as I’d want to,” she explains. The guys haven’t been asking her the right questions or showing a deeper side of themselves, so she’s not comfortable opening up that side of herself yet. She thought by now she’d understand her feelings and emotions better. But, “I just don’t want to give my heart to anybody who doesn’t deserve it.”

The rest of the episode is a bit strange: Basically, Chris brings Hannah to the Bachelor mansion to recap everything we’ve seen in the season so far. They talk about the highs and lows, but none of it is that enlightening. We do find out Luke is the best kisser, though, so I guess that explains a lot. Also, Hannah once named a pimple Marcus, which I think is a good name for a pimple.

How to Make Sex Last Longer: Ten Ways to Prolong the Enjoyment With Your Partner

Sex doesn’t always have to be a slow, tantric-inspired session, but two minutes isn’t exactly enough time for most women to get to the good stuff. So how can you make sex last longer?

Sex has a lot more to offer than just an orgasm (not that orgasms should be discounted…): connecting with your partner, exploring his or her body, enjoying your own body. Why rush it? We asked the experts how to make sex last longer when you’re craving more connection, more intimacy, and of course, more orgasms.

1. First things first, don’t get too preoccupied with pulling an all-nighter

“Women are supposed to want hour-long sex,” says relationship and sexuality educator Logan Levkoff. That’s great if that’s what you want—but if you don’t, that’s okay too, she says. Personally, every time I see a romcom with a classic post-coital comment like, “wow didn’t get any sleep last night”, my first thought is: How? Why? What about chafing? Making sex last longer doesn’t need to mean turning it into a marathon. “What someone wants—whether it’s shorter or longer—is very individualized and also very contextual based on the relationship and partnership,” Levkoff says. Having a conversation before going into sex about what each person wants to get out of it—including duration!—is step one, she says. Plus, once you take the pressure off to win gold in the all-night sex Olympics, it may naturally go longer—probably because you’re less preoccupied with goalposts and more focused on enjoying your experience.

2. Remember, sex isn’t all about penetration

“Sex shouldn’t simply be about something being in someone else’s body for a particular period of time,” says Levkoff. Translation: Penetration doesn’t have to be the final destination. In fact, Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., a sex therapist at The Intimacy Institute in Colorado, refers to sexual encounters as “The Cheesecake of Pleasure” when her patients need help mixing up their routine. Perhaps you start with a bite of graham cracker crust, next the cheese filling, a bit more graham cracker, some blueberry compote, cheese again—you get the idea. (See also: Friends episode “The One with Phoebe’s Uterus”. Seven, seven, SEVEN!) In other words, sample the sexual menu.

3. Foreplay can be the main event

“Women’s sexual response cycle varies from the average men’s sexual response cycle in that their arousal patterns tend to rise, fall and plateau before a climax,” says Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist and founder and director of the Center for Love and Sex in New York. Take advantage of those fluctuations: “Two women can take full advantage by playing with their partner’s arousal levels through stimulating their more erogenous areas that heighten and increase arousal to a 7 or 8 (out of 10) then focusing on stimulating less erogenous areas to bring the arousal down to a 4 or 5.” Think of this kind of foreplay as it’s own thing, not just the opening act. This kind of play is more realistic for going all night long, Cooper says.

4. Try new positions

If and when you do ultimately go for penetration, don’t stick to just one position from beginning to all-too-soon end. “Switching positions and trying different types of stimulation can provide continued arousal but maybe not to the point of orgasm,” says Laurence A. Levine, M.D., a urologist and the chief medical officer of Promescent, an FDA-approved topical spray that helps men last longer. If you typically take longer to reach orgasm than a male partner, this can help him pump the breaks while you enjoy the slow build.

5. Delay the orgasm

When a male partner feels like he’s about to ejaculate, he (or you) can grab his shaft right below the head and gently squeeze for 5-10 seconds. The pressure on his urethra and constriction of blood flow will help repress his orgasm. This kind of tactic is a common practice for edging, where the goal is halt an orgasm (for men or women) just before climax, take a moment to calm down, and then start back up again, ultimately leading to an incredibly intense orgasm eventually.

6. Be good to your body

How you treat your body can dramatically impact your ability to enjoy a nice long session between the sheets. Exercising regularly promotes better blood flow (for women and men), Dr. Levine says. “Both of you will feel healthier, and you get the bonus endorphins and stamina to mix into your couple time.” Quitting smoking and limiting drinking can also help improve stamina—especially for men. “A healthy vascular system is essential if a man wants to have a reliable and strong erection,” Dr. Levine says. “Smoking does nothing but slow both of you down.” A drink or two is fine but remember, alcohol is a depressant: imbibe too much and it can impact your sexual appetite.

7. Use a condom

Not only are condoms vital for preventing STIs, they can also help you make sex last longer. For most guys, a condom decreases penis sensitivity—the thicker the condom, the less he’ll feel and the longer it will take him to orgasm. Condoms come in all different thicknesses, ranging from .05 millimeters to 1 millimeter. If you’re looking for a thick condom to decrease sensation, try Lifestyles Extra Strength. (Never, however, double up on condoms. That is a recipe for condom slippage and tearing.)

8. Strengthen your pelvic floor

Kegel exercises—basically squeezing your pelvic floor muscles like you would to stop peeing mid-stream—can help heighten your arousal. The stronger your pelvic floor muscles, the stronger your orgasm. Men can do their own version of kegels. “Studies show that Kegel exercises can help men improve the strength of their erection and help with premature ejaculation,” says Dr. Levine.

9. Take a breather

Remember when Michael Scott ate a whole bowl of fettuccine alfredo to prepare for a race? Don’t do that. Do, however, take water breaks—or cuddle/massage/chat/shower breaks during sex. Intimacy and sensuality mean a lot of different things to different people. “Maybe that’s explicit sexual acts or maybe not,” says Levkoff. A shower, for example, doesn’t have to mean sex is over—it can be a part of the ongoing sexual experience, a steamy break before orgasm number two.

10. Make the time to really enjoy sex

We get it: Sunrise yoga, 9-to-5 job, cocktails with friends, and catching up on season three of The Handmaid’s Tale all in time to get a full night’s sleep takes energy and dedication. Maybe you can pencil in ten minutes for sex between cocktails and Hulu, but probably not. The bottom line is: If you want sex to last longer, make time for it. “Create a large enough window to relax. Most people leave way too little time for a juicy exploratory encounter,” says Cooper. She recommends stimulating new places on your partner’s body and experimenting with varying levels of pressure—both things that require time and intention.

18 Best Highlighters for 2019

Once upon a time, we just swiped some blush and bronzer on our faces and called it glowy skin. Now there’s highlighter—a whole lot of it—and finding your perfect highlighting powder, strobe cream, or glow stick is a little like Goldilocks testing out porridge. It all can feel a bit too too: too extra, too basic, too unicorn. That’s where we come in. We tested every single highlighter that’s come across our desks and narrowed down a list of our current favorites. Some are subtle, others can’t be missed, and, sure, some are fit for a unicorn, be it a very sophisticated one. Whatever your taste or skin tone, we bet you’ll love the J.Lo-level cheekbones they give you just as much.

Wardrobe Essentials: 10 Pants Everyone Should Own

Even if you’re not a self-proclaimed “pants” person, having a few essential styles in your closet will ensure that you’ve got your bases covered: for work, for dressy events, for an errand run—whatever you might have going on. So, if you decide to skip the skirt or dress, you’ll still feel comfortable and not have to worry about whether an outfit goes together. From the vintage-style jeans you wear on weekends to the office-friendly trousers you want to wear long after you’ve clocked out, here are 10 types of pants that everyone should have in their wardrobes.

All the Times Kate Middleton’s Fashion Has Reminded Us of Princess Diana

Rarely does a week go by without a Kate Middleton outfit sighting the world instantly wants to copy. And while we now scramble to pick up her exact Zara coats or a close imitation of her best dresses, Middleton’s fashion choices themselves appear to be inspired by another member of the royal family: the late Princess Diana. Over the years many have inferred that the Duchess of Cambridge’s wardrobe has paid homage to her late mother-in-law, with some instances being more obvious than others. Whether it be a single similar item or a piece-for-piece recreation, some of Middleton’s best looks make us reminisce about Princess Diana’s iconic stylebook. The two women favored different designers—Kate is partial to Alexander McQueen and Erdem, while Princess Diana leaned into David Sassoon and Bruce Oldfield—yet both women’s tastes include crisp coats, pastel suits, and dazzling formal wear. Here we gathered the 15 instances of straight-up fashion twinning, courtesy of Kate Middleton and Princess Diana.

All the Times Kate Middleton’s Fashion Has Reminded Us of Princess Diana’s

Rarely does a week go by without a Kate Middleton outfit sighting the world instantly wants to copy. And while we now scramble to pick up her exact Zara coats or a close imitation of her best dresses, Middleton’s fashion choices themselves appear to be inspired by another member of the royal family: the late Princess Diana. Over the years many have inferred that the Duchess of Cambridge’s wardrobe has paid homage to her late mother-in-law, with some instances being more obvious than others. Whether it be a single similar item or a piece-for-piece re-creation, some of Middleton’s best looks make us reminisce about Princess Diana’s iconic stylebook. The two women favored different designers—Kate is partial to Alexander McQueen and Erdem, while Princess Diana leaned into David Sassoon and Bruce Oldfield—yet both women’s tastes include crisp coats, pastel suits, and dazzling formal wear. Here we gathered the 15 instances of straight-up fashion twinning, courtesy of Kate Middleton and Princess Diana.

Big Little Lies Is Having the Tough Conversations About Sexual Assault

Hearing that your dead son was a serial abuser is a lot for a mother to process; hopefully, after having some time, Mary Louise will be less reactive and defensive with Celeste. This scene made me think about a terrible experience of my own. In college, a man at a party asked me to stay and sleep with him, of which I refused. He followed me into the hallway, pinned me against the wall, and forced his hand inside me. When I escaped his grip, I walked home crying.

To this day, I’m still friendly with his sister, who often calls her brother her favorite person and holds him to the same high regards as Mary Louise holds Perry. I often wonder what my friend, the man’s sister, would say or think if I ever opened up to her about what happened with her brother. I know it wouldn’t be pretty, and I also know she wouldn’t believe me. Why believe someone you barely know over the person you grew up with and love with your whole heart? So, I was very affected by this particular scene.

Another gutting moment in Sunday’s episode transpired when Jane tells Ziggy about his real father, Perry. Like the twins, Ziggy also found out at school that his real father was Perry. When Jane confronts Ziggy about why he didn’t ask her about it, he says he figured she wouldn’t tell the truth. Ziggy then says he heard Jane was “salted.” Through tears, Jane tells him she thinks the word he heard was “assault,” and proceeds to open up about her experience.

Woodley told Vanity Fair that she didn’t consult experts about this scene, but rather went in somewhat unrehearsed to see what emotions poured out of her. “For me in that scene, it really was, how do you allow yourself to be in complete shock and be an adult in a situation where you yourself feel like a vulnerable child?” Talking to a child about rape isn’t something we often see on TV; Big Little Lies infused this scene with empathy, juxtaposing childlike innocence with adult trauma. Jane’s decision here is layered and realistic, and one that many survivors and mothers have had to make in their own lives, too.

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Both Jane and Celeste’s admissions cause them trouble later in the episode. Mary Louise says she’s going to the police with what Celeste has told her, as it’s pertinent information that wasn’t disclosed during investigations. Jane’s confession puts her at odds with Celeste because they made a previous agreement not to tell their children the truth about Perry. Celeste’s twins ask their mother if Perry was a bad man, and she chooses the opposite path of Jane, saying that Perry made mistakes but was a good man. It’s another thorny issue: Jane was tired of lying to her son, which created distance between them. But Ziggy’s knowledge is a threat to Celeste’s sons, who could easily find out that their father was a rapist and abuser. That’s a lot for children to comprehend.