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P!nk Swims In The Perilous Rivers Of Relationship Nostalgia In ‘Can We Pretend’

Nostalgia is quite a phenomenon. It’s why we prefer older sitcoms and cartoons to current ones. Aside from being probably funnier, we unconsciously soak in the atmosphere surrounding them so we’re not just thinking of our favorite actors and trademark catchphrases. We’re obsessed with the pop culture environment and that sense of freedom that eludes us because, let’s face it, being younger, no matter what age, often amounts to more freedom. P!nk‘s new single is “Can We Pretend” and its all about this kind of nostalgia. But in this instance, it’s for a decomposed relationship. By living in a nostalgic world removed from reality, can it be brought back to life?

Can you pretend? Because if you can, I will. P!nk’s upbeat record is airy and cheery, even if its a bit darker than what it sounds like as she asks the question. It also has a tambourine that doesn’t quit. Her opening verse is heartwarming and a vivid picture of her past. Dancing on tables and taking meaningless pictures are images that become plastered in the skull. Her chorus yanks those memories out of her brain and slaps them on the table in front of her partner. “So can we pretend that I’m twenty-two today?” she asks. “Can we pretend that we all end up okay?” she sings lovingly to the backdrop of the energetic, saccharine beat. There’s even a slight nod to how she feels about the commander-in-chief. “Can we pretend that we both like the president?” she pleads, a hint of a grin in her voice.

“Can We Pretend” is the third single released ahead of her forthcoming studio album Hurts 2B Human that drops on April 26. The first two songs released from it were “Walk Me Home” and “Hustle.”

Listen to the upbeat tune up above.

Post-Avengers: Endgame, The Russos Will Be Working On A Lot Of Remakes

Delivering a blockbuster on any level of the MCU’s greatest hits brings a lot of opportunities. And certainly, in the case of Avengers: Endgame directors Joe and Anthony Russo, there’s going to be a lot of parties interested in landing their unique voices. MGM in particular seems eager to work with the brothers, as they’ve recently landed a deal for them to try their hand at some projects under their roof, with a lot of potential for remakes to benefit in the process.

It was announced recently that The Russo Brothers’ production partnership AGBO Films has entered an agreement that consists of “a multi-film non-exclusive creative partnership to co-develop, co-produce and co-finance a slate of projects” with the legendary studio that brought us everything from Gone With The Wind to Legally Blonde, as well as the entire James Bond franchise. While original projects from AGBO Films are still on the table, there’s a focus on revitalizing in house IP from MGM, and there’s two films already waiting on the tarmac.

Diversifying the portfolio of the long ailing studio are remakes of films for both child and adult alike. On the more family friendly side, the already in process remake of The Secret of NIMH entitled The Rats of NIMH is in process, with the visual style aiming for a live-action/CGI hybrid like that of Disney’s The Lion King. Knowing how inventive and frightening the look of the original 1982 film from director Don Bluth was, having The Russo Brothers on board to shepherd this project is one of the best decisions that will come out of this partnership. Save for bringing Bluth back to the fold as a consultant, of course.

The other MGM property that looks to be part of the early phases of this deal is The Thomas Crown Affair, the legendary Steve McQueen heist film that already saw itself remade in 1999 with Pierce Brosnan playing the dashing thief. With Michael B. Jordan already attached to play the man with the plan, and a new rewrite means that Joe and Anthony Russo have come in at just the right time to put that story right, should they see fit.

Now is a good time to mention that, per Deadline‘s report, this is not only a non-exclusive agreement, allowing The Russos to roam about to other studios while working through this agreement. So should the want to either join a new clubhouse like the DCEU or maintain relationships with old friends like Marvel Studios, it looks like there’s room to breathe for all involved.

Also, this MGM agreement only specifies that The Russo Brothers will “co-develop, co-produce, and co-finance” the films on their slate. One would think that if they really wanted to direct any of the projects on their docket, there’d be little to no objection. But if they want to sit back and guide some fresh talent in the director’s chair, that too could work to their favor.

The world is about to become an oyster for The Russos to harvest at their own will, and all it took was six Infinity Stones and a handful of Marvel cinematic masterworks to get there. If there’s anything more interesting than recounting what they’ve done in the past, it’s what they’re about to do with their future.

Avengers: Endgame heads to theaters on April 26th, and much like destiny, you can’t run from it. But you can prepare for it with our MCU timeline, showcasing the various running orders you can watch the films in, leading up to this momentous occasion.

Mark Hamill Reveals His Favorite Star Wars Film

There is arguably no film franchise quite as big as Star Wars. George Lucas’ colorful world has entranced audiences for decades, as each new installment in the epic space opera results in massive box office numbers. And with Disney in charge of Lucasfilm, new and challenging installments have been brought to theaters every single year. The Skywalker Saga started back with A New Hope, and will conclude with J.J. Abrams still untitled Episode IX later this year.

With so many installments in the galaxy far, far away, the rabid fandom has plenty of options regarding which Star Wars movie is their favorite. This includes those intimately involved in the property, like franchise hero Mark Hamill. Hamill recently revealed his favorite Star Wars flick, saying:

Luke Skywalker has spoken. And he’s chosen perhaps the most popular Star Wars movie in the entire franchise. Everyone loves the twist and turns of Empire Strikes Back, and that includes the film’s protagonist as well.

Mark Hamill’s comments to THR echo the general feelings of the Star Wars fandom. Empire Strikes back may be fifth in the franchise’s timeline, but it was actually the second Star Wars movie to ever hit theaters back in 1980. The movie is decidedly darker than its predecessor, and contains some mind blowing twits thanks to Luke’s parentage. Plus, it introduces Frank Oz’s beloved Jedi Master Yoda on Dagobah.

Empire Strikes Back is such a great movie that it’s often considered one of the best sequels in the film world. As such, plenty of filmmakers have compared their sequels with Empire. George Lucas built upon the galaxy he created with A New Hope, and brought all the leading characters to new places, further developing their characters. Add in the twists and dark ending, and there’s a recipe that has resonated with cinephiles for decades.

It should be fascinating to see where Luke Skywalker’s story ultimately ends with J.J. Abrams’ mysterious Episode IX. While Luke seemingly perished in The Last Jedi after using Force Projection, Mark Hamill is set to return in some capacity with the next movie. Smart money says he’ll be a Force Ghost, but we’ll just have to wait and see how it all shakes up.

Episode IX will arrive in theaters on December 20th. In the meantime, check out our 2019 release list to plan your next trip to the movies.

I Poured Listerine on My Vulva In a Desperate Attempt to Cure a Yeast Infection

When I told my fiancé I poured Listerine on my vulva, he asked through muffled laughter, “Are you stupid or crazy?”

Neither. I was desperate. Desperate to the point of madness. For two years, I was repeatedly diagnosed with yeast infections that left the whole of my nether regions itchy, irritated, swollen, and often feeling like they were on fire. I was at the end of my rope.

My mother got lots of yeast infections when she was younger so when I first became afflicted, doctors diagnosed my problem as hereditary, saying I was simply more susceptible to the overgrowth of yeast. (Three out of four women get a yeast infection at some point in their lives so it’s pretty common.) But when the infections started coming just as regularly as my period, my mother said, “God, even I didn’t have that many.” As part of a gossipy Portuguese family, it was only hours before almost every female in my extended family knew about it. For Christmas that year, I received what my aunt referred to as the Itchy Vagina package. It was stocked with tubes of Vagisil, medicated vaginal wipes, pads. I was less embarrassed, more thankful. My stockpile was running low.

At that point, I had taken every over-the-counter medication available. Truthfully, I could have been the poster child for Monistat. The pharmacist seemed to think so—his eyebrows raised as I approached the counter with a basket full of vaginal products for the second time in a month. I had gone to see my primary care doctor, nurse practitioners, and gynecologists. I did everything they told me to. I ate yogurt. I popped probiotics. I never sat too long in my wet bathing suit. I only wore cotton underwear. At night, I lay naked from the waist down, spreading my legs wide imagining air flowing in and out of me, fanning the disease away.

The infections had also infiltrated my sex life. Sex was was no longer about pleasure—at least, not the pleasure I was used to. My doctors told me to stay away from sex as it would only irritate the infection further (the vast majority of yeast infections aren’t contagious), but like an unruly kid who plunges a pencil under her cast to satisfy that burning itch, my fiancé’s penis became my own personal scratching stick. I no longer wanted the slow, rhythmic hip thrusting I typically preferred. Every time my fiancé and I got under the sheets, I wanted it hard and fast, screaming for more. I never orgasmed, but afterward, I fell asleep feeling satisfied.

But this—like almost everything I’d tried to relieve the itch—eventually proved more painful than pleasurable. My yeast infections were getting worse and my poor vagina seemed like it would never heal. Still I scratched and scratched until my skin was raw. Until I got cuts and bled.

One day, feeling helpless as I sat in the bathtub for the fourth or fifth time that week with tears in my eyes, pressing a cold cloth against my burning skin, I looked up and saw the blue-green Listerine bottle sitting on the vanity: “Kills 99% of bacteria.”

Yeast infections are fungal infections, not bacterial, but I didn’t care. I imagined microbes of bacteria floating through my vaginal canal, clinging to the walls. I imagined them multiplying by the thousands, creating metropolitan cities of red rashy skin. Skyscrapers of itch. Smokestacks of fiery burn. I grabbed the Listerine and poured.

Spoiler alert: this was not a good idea. It was about five seconds before I screamed in even worse pain than I could have imagined, turning the faucet on full blast. I cursed and bit down hard on my tongue until the burning was over.

You’d think pouring mouthwash on my burning vulva would constitute a turning point but it was still a little over a year before I was finally referred to a vulva specialist. She ran her gloved finger around my labia as all the doctors I’d seen had done before. I tried not to flinch. When she was done, I pried my legs out of the stirrups, and sat straight, gloomily awaiting another non-answer or ineffective home remedy I’d already tried a thousand times.

Maggie Rogers On Giving Yourself Permission To Still Be Processing

By Sara Radin

Maggie Rogers was not prepared nor planning for fame. In fact, one could say it’s something that happened to her, all thanks to a viral video from 2016 of Pharrell Williams delightfully listening to her song “Alaska.” At that time, Rogers was a senior attending New York University’s Clive Davis Institute of Recorded Music, but found herself struggling with a period of writer’s block. In January 2019, she explained to The New York Times, “All my teachers were really frustrated with me.” Having spent time working for music journalist Lizzy Goodman and interning at publications such as Elle and Spin, Rogers contemplated a career in music journalism as a last resort.

“I’ve never heard anyone like you before,” Pharrell, then an NYU artist-in-residence, tells Rogers in the video. “That’s a drug for me.” The song she played for the famed musician that fateful day had only been drafted in 15 minutes but it still received millions of views and immediately thrust the singer-songwriter into the spotlight. Now, three years later, the folkie pop singer has released her debut album Heard It In a Past Life and gone on multiple tours (including one with Mumford & Sons), bringing her candescent, warm spirit to cities across the U.S. and U.K.

Yet despite her many accolades, sold-out shows, and hit singles, Rogers seems to present herself in a way that’s distinct from most pop stars today: Until recently she styled herself for all of her public appearances, she likes to shares bits of her process on social media, and has been incredibly open about the challenge of navigating virality you didn’t ask for and the highs and lows of being a public figure. In this way, she embodies a refreshing sense of approachability, making her feel almost within reach — like that friend of a friend you see out at parties sometimes who is always really kind and has cool style.

These days, as Rogers rises further into the spotlight, she remains humble and authentic, showing her fans that it’s OK to not have all the answers while also reminding them of their humanity in everything that she does. A few days before her big Coachella performance and three years after “Alaska” first spread like wildfire, the rising singer tells MTV News why she loves glitter, her latest self-care purchase — a pillow — and the importance of processing.

MTV News: I really appreciate how honest you’ve been about being unprepared for the spotlight and not having control over your song and story going viral. How did you work your way back to being yourself after going through that experience?

Maggie Rogers: I don’t know if it was coming back to being myself. I feel like I’ve been myself the whole time. It’s just think that every time you’re in a new situation you’re forced to work through new variables. The challenge for me was processing this intense amount of information and energy coming my way and then trying to really sit down and make decisions that felt like me. I had to take a second to validate everything I was feeling and give myself permission to feel all these things and then use that to fuel my art.

MTV News: Do you ever have any regrets over not being a music journalist?

Rogers: Not these days. When you’re super passionate about something you’re more willing to do all of the grunt work. You know, like, I’m so willing to live on a bus for my whole life because that means I get that one moment on stage or that one moment in the studio that totally fills me. I didn’t have that for journalism but it made me really appreciate what I had with music that much more. I still love writing, talking to other artists, and thinking about music and culture. That is very much a part of my life, my creative practice, and the way that I think about the world. [Journalism] is just not my primary passion. I feel really lucky and grateful that I get to make my primary passion my real life.

MTV News: How do you navigate long periods of writer’s block and do you have any tips for getting through it?

Rogers: I’ve always used music to tell me who I am in a singular moment and I’ve only had one long period of writer’s block in my life, which was when I was in college, when I moved from the super rural area in Maryland to New York City. Like most people in college, I just wasn’t really sure who I was. I was changing, and tried to take the time to notice that change. Now, whenever I’m having trouble with writing it usually has to do with my self-critic being too loud so I’ve made a lot of effort to try and separate the process of creating and editing because I think if you’re trying to edit as you’re making stuff, you’ll just end up getting in your own way.

MTV News: What kind of things do you do for your self-care when you’re on the road?

Rogers: Self-care is something I’m learning a lot about right now. I’ve been trying out different things on the road to feed my brain, my body and my soul. I spend a lot of time reading and try to make sure that I can get a little bit of alone time every day. I’ve always measured a good day as one where I can read, write, and run. Recently, I bought myself a pillow for the bus from Bed Bath & Beyond, and that’s been a game changer. I also invested in a Bluetooth speaker because I don’t know where my home really is right now, but wherever I am living, there’s always been a record player and I love having music around me.

MTV News: Do you have any weird or unexpected pre-concert or pre-tour rituals?

Rogers: Everybody wants to hear the weird stuff, but I just do normal things like a vocal warm up. I try and hydrate. I tell my band I love them. Oh, and then, I put some glitter on.

MTV News: You seem to really love glitter. Are you still styling yourself or public appearances and how do you decide what you want to wear for different performances?

Rogers: I just started working with a new stylist but she hasn’t styled me for anything publicly yet. Dressing for the stage is something I’m really still learning. I’ve been through periods of time where I’ve worn really elaborate, colorful costumes but a lot of that had to do with the fact that I was really scared and overwhelmed. Then I went to a place where I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, but suddenly my daily clothes felt like a costume. So now I wear some kind of hybrid. It’s constantly evolving but I love being playful on stage. With glitter, it’s just so silly and there’s this sort of middle-school sleepover element that I like to incorporate into my stage life. It’s not everyday you get to be a pop star.

MTV News: In all of your music videos and the videos I’ve seen of you performing on stage it seems like you’re really letting go and that’s what your music inspires me to do for myself.

Rogers: Sometimes you just need to dance it out and physically move through things. It’s been special to see people at these shows really let go. Everyone knows what it’s like to feel sad and everybody is going through their own shit. And sometimes it’s just nice to be with a group of people together in a room and feel things at the same time.

MTV News: So how does it feel to be selling out venues you never dreamed you’d play at?

Rogers: It is very surreal. I’m very much still processing all of that. Everything is moving quickly but I’m so excited and grateful.

MTV News: What do you like most about being on tour?

Rogers: Touring is really hard. I mean, I live in a bus with 12 people and we have no real sleep schedule. But being able to see that moment at the end of the night where people are really radiating and moving through some things makes me feels like I’m doing some kind of energy work in the world and that is pretty fulfilling.

Every *Riverdale* Fan Needs These Betty and Veronica Sneakers

Since the first episode of Riverdale, our fave fictional characters have given us plenty of IRL style ideas. As we continue to try our best to emulate Cheryl Blossom’s iconic red lipstick, copying at least one aspect of the cast’s wardrobe has gotten a tad easier.

Keds teamed up with Archie Comics to create a line of Betty and Veronica sneakers. Although the offerings feature the comic version of our favorite best friend duo, the retro-inspired stylings found on the sneakers would make them an equally stylish option for the CW’s modern-day Riverdale. For the collection, Keds debuted six different shoes, with prices ranging from $59.95 to $74.95.

Along with a pair of white slip-on Keds that feature embodied Betty and Veronica profiles, the launch includes a pair of pink lace-ups adorned in animated Betty and Veronica faces, rosy pink shoes with dainty cartoons including a sundae, and a denim blue version of the animated style.

There’s also a pair of white slip-on Keds covered in comic strips and a lace-up white shoe with colored animation.

This isn’t the first time that members of the Riverdale cast have inspired wearable items. Hot Topic previously launched a line of merchandise from the show and Torrid debuted a size-inclusive line of clothing that included Riverdale cardigans and a bodycon dress.

Ahead, take a look at the collection.

The Amika Deep Waver Gives Me the Coolest Lived-In Waves – Review

When I find something good, I do not shut up about it. Ever since I tried the newly launched Amika High Tide Deep Waver a few weeks ago, I have been preaching the gospel of my new hair obsession (just ask my co-workers). Prompted or not, I would tell anyone who even glanced at my hair “It’s so easy to use—and I’m garbage with hair tools!” or “ I feel like I’m in Mamma Mia Here We Go Again.”

Let it be known that hair is my beauty weakness. I’m terrible with hot tools and usually just sleep on mine wet and come into work with bedhead that I think is cool in a sexy-but-not trying way, but probably just looks like I didn’t try at all (not in a sexy way). I’m also always running ten minutes behind, so I have no time to remedy it in the morning. So when I came into work and was actually getting compliments on my hair (which I was left and right), I knew I had found something good.

I’ve been obsessed with the loose, beachy wave look (think Aquamarine meets Olsen Twins) for forever and have tried tons of irons on my straight hair, but have never been able to get it right. They leave my hair too crimped and crinkly, and looking obviously “done.” I’ve even gone as far as getting a “beachy perm” in high school, but it left me looking more like a poodle than a mermaid.

The Amika Waver changed all that. It looks like a fairly standard waving iron with three barrels. The exception is this one is pretty large, about four inches across, which I think is where the magic lies. Because of the extra large size, it gives me big, loose waves, without a crinkle in sight. It doesn’t look like I’ve done anything to it, in fact several coworkers asked me if that was my natural hair all along.

Besides the mermaid hair, my favorite thing about the waver is that it’s so damn easy to use. I almost never leave the house on time, so I like to use it at night on soon-to-be second day hair. The fact that I can use it before bed and wake up with nearly-perfect tousled waves is truly game-changing. I usually just divide my hair into four to six sections, depending on how big I want the waves to be or how much time I feel like spending on my hair. Then I brush out whatever section I’m working with, and start clamping my hair between the barrels like a sandwich.

I start the wave at the top of my head (but not directly on the roots, think more a few inches down) and gently work my way down the section, holding each “clamp” in place for about five seconds. I’ve found I get the most natural-looking wave by not pulling my hair so tight that it’s straight, but instead by moving it along with the natural motion of the iron—sort of bending it like an accordion as it moves through the barrels. It sounds more complicated than it is, but I promise it’s super intuitive to use as someone who can somehow manage to eff up using a flat iron.

The only learning curve I’ve had is getting a dent on the top of my head where the waves start. Naeemah LaFond, Amika’s global artistic director, recommends holding the waver at a slight slant when working with the top layer of hair to avoid a harsh line, which I’ve found incredibly helpful for getting a natural wave. She also recommends going back over the roots with a flatiron to flatten the top of your hair down for a more natural look.

What ‘Unplanned’ Gets Wrong About Abortion, According To Experts

The biggest film among conservative right-wingers and anti-abortion groups at the moment is Unplanned, a story based on the eponymous memoir of a Abby Johnson, a former Planned Parenthood worker. In both the memoir and the film, Johnson describes her life as a director of a Planned Parenthood clinic in Texas where she initially believes in the organization’s mission until one day, she assists with a procedure to terminate a pregnancy. That becomes the turning point for her, and she launches a career as a pro-life activist. The movie is exploding: Unplanned raked in over $6 million its opening weekend, coming in fourth—one spot behind Captain Marvel—at the box office.

Johnson has every right to change her views. (How that happened may not have been the epiphany that is portrayed in the film—Texas Monthly couldn’t corroborate her timeline of events and suggested other factors may have fueled her decision to leave Planned Parenthood.) But the way the film portrays abortion is inaccurate and downright dangerous, according to experts.

Unplanned portrays surgical abortions as unsafe and barbaric. In a pivotal scene, Johnson’s character is asked to assist during an ultrasound-guided termination procedure. She says she sees the 13-week-old fetus “twisting and fighting for it’s life,” during the procedure and was horrified. It’s a shocking image—gore is central to Unplanned, and it’s a big reason why the Motion Picture Association of America slapped the film with an R rating. The filmmakers have said they didn’t want to compromise on graphic portrayals of intense abortion complications. There’s one major issue, however: these graphic images and the idea that a fetus could feel pain during an abortion are totally inaccurate, says Katherine McHugh, M.D., a board member with Physicians for Reproductive Health and OB/GYN in Indiana who performs abortion procedures.

In the film, Abby tells a patient that “the one thing that all experts agree on is that at this stage, the fetus can’t feel anything.” Her tone is earnest to the point of being mocking, and the claim is undercut when she witnesses the ultrasound-guided termination later in the film. The filmmakers have said that the abortion scene, which is one of three, is accurate based on Johnson’s experience and that it was vetted by Anthony Levatino, a retired obstetrician-gynecologist and longtime anti-abortion activist. (He plays the doctor in the scene.)

But most medical experts maintain that a fetus at 13 weeks is incapable of cognitive function. “What we know about the neurologic system of a fetus is that certainly at 13 weeks, there is no capability for the ability to feel pain,” Dr. McHugh says. “That simply doesn’t exist yet because that part of the brain does not exist at this gestational age. The neurons that are required to be able to feel pain don’t exist.” This doesn’t occur until the third trimester, well after 20 weeks, she says. “It is not accurate to say that a fetus would be recoiling from or fighting a probe or a suction,” says Dr. McHugh. “There is no higher cognitive function at 13 weeks, there is no ability to feel pain, so there is no reflex away. Probably what is being described is the turbulent movement of the fluid as the suction is activated—that’s it.”

Another dangerous inaccuracy in the film is the way abortions themselves are portrayed as dangerous. This is false. “Portrayals with heavy bleeding or tissue falling out, are simply not accurate,” Dr. McHugh says, adding that complications are “extremely, extremely rare” and that “abortions are incredibly safe.”

False medical information can increase violence against medical providers and women.

“If I, at any point, thought my patients were unsafe—whether that meant that she was bleeding uncontrollably, she was having severe pain, she was questioning her decision, any of those things—the procedure would stop and we would get her appropriate intervention, which could mean transferring her to a hospital or bringing in a different specialty,” Dr. McHugh says. “Whatever it would take, that’s what we would do for our patient in every clinic, every day. What we do not do is threaten our patients lives to prove a point or to further a cause.”

Brockhampton’s Kevin Abstract Stretches His Creative Fingers On Arizona Baby

Kevin Abstract is one of rap group BROCKHAMPTON‘s founding members. Fans have fallen in love with the way that his heavy voice floats on beats and how open and vulnerable he is about his personal life on wax. It’s always a joy when he graces the track with his unique brand of lyricism so his new release, ARIZONA baby brings triple the euphoria. Released today, his new project, based on recent teases, could be the first of three newly released bodies of work from Abstract or BROCKHAMPTON itself.

It’s often a cliche when someone says that no two songs of an artist sound the same, but when you listen to BROCKHAMPTON’s wildly theatrical music – that could be divided into genres within the hip-hop spectrum – it’s a fact. Abstract undoubtedly is a large reason for this, being that he’s the group’s frontman and public face. But this brief throng reinforces this creativity in the vast expanse of musical estate covered in its three songs, “Big Wheels,” “Joy Ride,” and “Georgia.” “Big Wheels” sounds like a nightmarish world of corded phones and slightly open closet doors in the dead of the night. “Joy Ride” is a drive through pink and orange skies on Mars during a scorching summer. “Georgia” is smooth, sexy and melodic, exposing a different side of the sharp-tongued emcee than we’ve seen previously. Each song is separate and doesn’t exist in the same world.

Abstract recently posted a mysterious picture to Instagram with three numbers: 11th, 18th, and 25th. It’s clear that since he released the project on April 11 that these two other dates will most likely correspond to release periods or announcements at the least. What’s coming next? More Abstract? Or more BROCKHAMPTON? They’ve been pretty quiet since last year’s iridescence

For the time being, avoid driving yourself into a frenzy over this speculation by listening to ARIZONA baby up above.

Buckingham Palace Just Issued a Rare Statement About Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s Baby

It’s almost time for Baby Sussex, the first child of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, to finally make his or her debut. And at last we have a new statement from Buckingham Palace about plans surrounding the royal baby’s arrival—well, sort of.

The palaces (first Kensington, now Buckingham after Prince Harry and Markle’s split to establish their own household) have remained basically silent since the pregnancy was first announced in October 2018. “Their Royal Highnesses The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are very pleased to announce that The Duchess of Sussex is expecting a baby in the Spring of 2019,” KP posted to both Twitter and Instagram at the time. “Their Royal Highnesses have appreciated all of the support they have received from people around the world since their wedding in May and are delighted to be able to share this happy news with the public.”

Now, the latest announcement continues to prove Prince Harry and Markle are doing this royal baby thing their way—and I’m so glad they are. “The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are very grateful for the goodwill they have received from people throughout the United Kingdom and around the world as they prepare to welcome their baby,” the statement from Buckingham Palace reads. “Their Royal Highnesses have taken a personal decision to keep the plans around the arrival of their baby private. The Duke and Duchess look forward to sharing the exciting news with everyone once they have had an opportunity to celebrate privately as a new family.”

This is as sure a sign as we’ve seen that Markle won’t be standing outside a hospital for a photo call mere hours after giving birth, like her sister-in-law Kate Middleton. (Reporters do expect to be informed when the duchess is in labor.) As a royals fan, am I low-key sad we won’t immediately get a photo of Baby Sussex? Sure. As a woman, though, I think it’s fantastic Markle (and Prince Harry) are doing what’s right for them and not what’s expected (or wanted) from the world. This is their family and their baby, after all.

Of course, Baby Sussex will be seventh in line for the throne, which puts Prince Harry and Markle in a different position than Prince William and Middleton were in upon the birth of their children, as noted by royals reporter Chris Ship. (Prince George is third in line behind his father and Prince Charles, with Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis following behind him.)

Ship also tweeted, “Perhaps the biggest question is this: Why should we expect any woman, royal or otherwise, to stand in front of a bank of cameras just hours—or even days—after she has given birth? You can see how Meghan looked at that prospect and thought, ‘thanks but no thanks’ …” Reactions to this announcement have been generally supportive across social media:

Whenever we see that first photo of the royal baby, I’ll be thrilled—and all the more so knowing it’s the way Prince Harry and Meghan Markle wanted it to happen.